When worlds [and families] collide - an impulsive rant
Posted on April 10 2017
Admittedly the past few weeks have been a bit of a rough patch for lolladad and me for various reasons. Today, we managed to record a podcast in the morning, make important decisions for our business, and shortly after get into a fight that ended in one of us storming off upset. The root cause of that fight...family and not seeing eye-to-eye.
I don't know about all of you, but my husband and I are incredibly close to our families, but we may need a break of some sort - for the sake of us. Don't get me wrong, I love our families deeply and I feel incredibly grateful for them, but these days, I feel like our families and the different value systems are actually causing problems in my marriage that otherwise would not have even been an issue. I guess the optimistic side of me could spin all the BS as challenging us to have difficult conversations and getting at the core of who we are, but the pessimistic, selfish side of me thinks if we were simply more distant, we wouldn't be dealing with any of this.
We come from seemingly similar yet fundamentally different families. For ten years, we've been able to skate by and cordially manage all the intensely complicated relationships and ways in which our families influence our everyday, but I am starting to wonder how much our families are affecting our happiness. Help~ how do I carefully extract all the amazing characteristics from each of our families and family members and pass that onto our daughters without imploding first?
Hello Hanna, this is the challenge of every marriage. And every marriage has fights that end with someone storming off, so don’t feel like you are alone. Are you still dating your husband? Make time to go on dates regularly so you can talk about what parts of each family you want to extract. It’s not enough to just have passing by conversations, you need to have concentrated times of communication. Lastly I will say that I believe marriage comes from God, and looking into what marriage is supposed to be on the Bible is super important. It has a lot to say about how a husband is supposed to treat a wife and wife is supposed to treat a husband. It essentially says that husbands need to give up everything for their wives. Whoa, that’s a tall order. Blessings to you guys! Keep fighting for your marriage and your family. – Nathan
Hi Hanna, I understand where you are coming from as I am in the same situation. My husband and I are currently residing w my parents and sometimes we do not see eye to eye w them and too much interference. I believe the best way is to realize that your daughters are their own individuals and have faith in them while teachinh them values your families have taught you